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For women:

Are you unhappy in your relationship and struggling with whether to stay or go?

Do you feel like you're settling?

Do you keep attracting relationships that don't work?



Get the clarity you need to make the decisions are right for you, and create healthy, authentic, relationships that last!

Whether you're trying to figure out if you can make your relationship work, or you already know it's not going to, but you're still feeling stuck

and you're ready to release anything that's been in the way of you getting the love you want, you're in the right place!

Maybe you relate to the word, "codependency" and maybe you don't, but if you feel like...

😔 Your partner really isn't there for you in the way you want him to be

😔 You sometimes accept unacceptable behavior because you don't want to rock the boat

😔 You're settling for a relationship that is never really going to be fulfilling

😔 You're unhappy in your relationship and struggling with whether to stay or go

😔 or you're repeatedly attracting relationships that don't work

and you want to:

💗 Release painful patterns that may be at the root of your relationship struggles

💗 Trust yourself to make soul aligned choices so you can stop wasting time in indecision

💗 Create healthy, fulfilling relationships that last!

You're in the right place!

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Hi. I'm Risa Gaull, Self-Love and Relationship Coach for Women, award-winning speaker featured on Transformational Talk Radio, and creator of the program, Freedom from Codependency: The Self-Love Solution™️.

After being married to a man who struggled with alcoholism and depression, and discovering how codependent I was, I learned what it takes to be in a healthy relationship.

As a Certified Transformational Life Coach, I've helped many people through the process of understanding their own emotions so they can make the choices that are right for them , and create healthy, fulfilling relationships that last!


"Freedom from Codependency:
The Self-Love Solution"

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to get the skills you need to create a healthy, fulfilling relationship that honors who you are, is built on a strong foundation of self-love, and allows both partners to thrive. 

Imagine, feeling completely in love - not with your partner, but with yourself... confident to take the next steps to creating the relationship you want, whether it's with this partner or someone else. 

In this private, customized program, you'll learn how to implement the 4 Pillars of a Healthy Relationship, so you can see if it's possible for you to improve your relationship, if that's what your goal is, and to release any unhealthy patterns that may be preventing you from getting the love you want!

Pillar#1: You Are the Love that You Need

One thing I know for sure... you will never be happy, or feel secure, if your well being is dependent upon how another person behaves, or responds to you.  Others are not your source. Two halves don't make a whole. The love you need comes from within you.

"Unless you're in right relationship with yourself, no relationship will ever be right."

Using my Inner Freedom Process™️, you'll learn how to love and accept yourself unconditionally, so you can move ahead confidently in your relationships, and in your life, in a way that honors who you are and brings you the most joy!

Pillar #2: Clear Boundaries - What is my responsibility and what is not? 

In a relationship where we are unwittingly deriving our sense of self-worth and security from another person, we become sort of enmeshed with them, and the boundaries around our sense of identity can get rather blurry.

"Where do I end, and he begins?"

We may also feel overly responsible for others, and become controlling if we feel like they are not making good choices, or behaving in the way we want them to. Having been married to an alcoholic, I know this one intimately... trying to control something over which you have no control can be tremendously painful and frustrating.

This is what I've come to understand... Ultimately, I am responsible for me and how I feel, and you are responsible for you.  I cannot live your life for you, and that is not my job.  That doesn't mean I don't care, or that I won't help. However, I will do it from a place of clarity and compassion, which honors us both.

In the Freedom from Codependency program, you will get crystal clear on "what is yours" to deal with, and what is not. You will come to understand that having clear boundaries is actually the most respectful, loving thing you can do in a relationship. Having this gift of clarity and focus is a strength that will serve everyone's highest good.

Pillar #3: Constructive Communication

Do you have a hard time speaking up for what you want, or sharing when your feelings are hurt? Do you feel like you just don't want to rock the boat, so you avoid conflict whenever possible?  Do you say yes, when you really want to say no?

This is a big one for a lot of people, myself included... it's call "people-pleasing".  This is a pattern of behavior we've adopted because we feel like we need others' love and approval.

 "Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean."

We may also choose to withhold how we feel because it doesn't feel safe to share.  Maybe, in the past, when you shared something vulnerable with your partner, it wasn't received well.  Perhaps he got defensive, and proceeded to attack or point fingers at you. 

Withholding how you really feel, blocks intimacy between you and your partner.

In the Freedom from Codependency program, you'll learn how to communicate your needs and feelings in a safe and constructive way, and we'll diffuse any discomfort you have around doing that. 

Pillar #4: Taking Responsibility for Yourself


We don't want to enter into a romantic relationship out of need, because we're not happy or are trying to fill a void within ourselves - but from a place where our cup is overflowing and we want to share it with someone!


Ideally, we come together as two, whole individuals, for the purpose of enjoyment, companionship, and sharing life's journey... with all its pleasures, challenges and sorrows. 

The relationship itself will bring lots of opportunities for personal growth, as you will inevitably 'push each other's buttons', triggering old emotional wounds that are bubbling up to the surface for healing.

"Using triggers as treasures... opportunities for personal growth and healing." 

In the Freedom from Codependency program, you'll learn what to do when your buttons get pushed, and begin to see those "triggers" for what they are... opportunities for growth and healing.


You'll also start to see when your partner gets triggered and, instead of taking it personally, you'll be able to support him using conscious constructive communication.

If you're ready to get the clarity you need, and release anything that's been in the way of you getting the love you want, click below to schedule a complimentary

Lasting Love 

  Breakthrough Session!

($197 value - Limited number available)

This is a private, 30-minute Zoom call, where we'll:

  • Uncover the hidden challenges that may be at the root of your relationship struggles

  • Get a crystal clear vision for the happy, fulfilling relationship you want!

  • See if it's a good fit for us to do more work together


If it's not a good fit, there's zero obligation and no hard feelings. Either way, you'll leave feeling renewed, re-energized and inspired, knowing exactly what steps you need to take next to get the love you want - whether you want to try to improve your relationship or you're considering leaving it. 

Just click below to schedule your complimentary Lasting Love Breakthrough Session! (Limited number available) If there are no spots left, please contact me and I'll put you on the waiting list!

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