Are You Frustrated and Unhappy in Your Relationship?

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Do you keep hoping he'll change?

Are you wondering if you'll ever recapture the intimacy you once shared?

Do you want to feel loved, valued and understood but you're wondering if that's even possible?

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Hi. I'm Risa Gaull, Mind Body Stress Relief Expert and Relationship Coach for Women. 

When I walked down the aisle and said, "I do", I genuinely thought it was going to be forever. I stuck with that relationship through all the trials and tribulations of alcoholism, and I sacrificed everything, until I couldn't sacrifice any more.

I see so many other women with giant hearts, sacrificing what they need in their relationships. What I've come to realize is that self-sacrifice doesn't really serve anyone, and that the way to create a healthy relationship is through a commitment to honoring what's best for yourself and your partner... and if that happens to coincide - awesome!

I help women who are unhappy in their relationships, get clear on what they want and need, and learn how to create healthy, fulfilling relationships that honor their truth, and are based on a strong foundation of self-love.

As a certified, Transformational Life Coach, I've helped many people through the process of understanding their own emotions, so they can make choices that are aligned with who they are, and guide their relationships in the direction they want. 

Introducing  the

"Be True to You: Getting the Love You Want"

program

Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to get the skills you need to create a healthy, fulfilling relationship that honors who you are, is built on a strong foundation of self-love, and allows both partners to thrive. 

Imagine, feeling completely in love - not with your partner, but with yourself... confident to take the next steps to creating the relationship you want, whether it's with this partner or someone else. 

In this private, customized program, you'll learn how to implement the 4 Pillars of a Healthy Relationship, which allow both you and your partner to thrive. 

Pillar#1: I Am the Love that I Need

One thing I know for sure... you will never be happy, or feel secure, if your well being is dependent upon how another person behaves, or responds to you.  Others are not your source. Two halves don't make a whole. The love you need comes from within you.

"That's why it's called 'self-esteem'... you can only get it from yourself!"

Using Transformational Life Coaching and the "4A Process for Emotional Freedom", you will learn how to love and accept yourself unconditionally, so you can move ahead confidently in your relationships, and in your life, in a way that honors who you are and brings you the most joy!

Pillar #2: Clear Boundaries - What is my responsibility and what is not? 

In a relationship where we are unwittingly deriving our sense of self-worth and security from another person, we become sort of enmeshed with them, and the boundaries around our sense of identity can get rather blurry.

"Where do I end, and he begins?"

We may also feel overly responsible for others, and become controlling if we feel like they are not making good choices, or behaving in the way we want them to. Having been married to an alcoholic, I know this one intimately... trying to control something over which you have no control can be tremendously painful and frustrating.

This is what I've come to understand... Ultimately, I am responsible for me and how I feel, and you are responsible for you.  I cannot live your life for you, and that is not my job.  That doesn't mean I don't care, or that I won't help. However, I will do it from a place of clarity and compassion, which honors us both.

In the "Be True to You" program, you will get crystal clear on "what is yours" to deal with, and what is not. You will come to understand that having clear boundaries is actually the most respectful, loving thing you can do in a relationship. Having this gift of clarity and focus is a strength that will serve everyone's highest good.

Pillar #3: Constructive Communication

Do you have a hard time speaking up for what you want, or sharing when your feelings are hurt? Do you feel like you just don't want to rock the boat, so you avoid conflict whenever possible?  Do you say yes, when you really want to say no?

This is a big one for a lot of people, myself included... it's call "people-pleasing".  This is a pattern of behavior we've adopted because we feel like we need others' love and approval.

 "Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean."

We may also choose to withhold how we feel because it doesn't feel safe to share.  Maybe, in the past, when you shared something vulnerable with your partner, it wasn't received well.  Perhaps he got defensive, and proceeded to attack or point fingers at you. 

Withholding how you really feel, blocks intimacy between you and your partner.

In the "Be True to You" program, you'll learn how to communicate your needs and feelings in a safe and constructive way, and we'll diffuse any discomfort you have around doing that.  You'll also learn how set up a safe container with your partner where you can practice open, honest communication.

Pillar #4: Give and Take

 

We don't want to enter into a romantic relationship out of need, because we're not happy or are trying to fill a void within ourselves - but from a place where our cup is overflowing and we want to share it with someone!

 

Ideally, we come together as two, whole individuals, for the purpose of enjoyment, companionship, and sharing life's journey... with all it's pleasures, challenges and sorrows. 

The relationship itself will bring lots of opportunities for personal growth, as you will inevitably 'push each other's buttons', triggering old emotional wounds that are bubbling up to the surface for healing.

"Seek first to understand, not to be understood."

In the "Be True to You" program, you will learn what to do when your buttons get pushed, and begin to see those "triggers" for what they are... opportunities for growth and healing. You'll also start to see when your partner gets triggered and, instead of taking it personally, you'll be able to support him using conscious constructive communication.

If you're wrestling with the question, "Should I stay or should I go?", I'm here to support you in finding the clarity you need to make the decision that's right for you... 

Request a

complimentary

Relationship Clarity

  Session

($197 value - Limited number available)

This is a private, 45-minute session, where you'll:

  • Create a crystal clear vision for the happy, fulfilling relationship you want!

  • Uncover the hidden challenges that may be at the root of your dissatisfaction

  • Leave feeling renewed, re-energized and inspired, knowing exactly what steps you need to take next - whether you want to try to improve your relationship or you're considering leaving it. 

To request your complimentary Relationship Clarity Session simply click the button below and scroll down to submit your information, and I'll be in touch with you soon! (Limited number available, request yours now!)